Wedding talk: part four- Bridesmaids.

Wedding talk: part four- Bridesmaids.

Picking your bridesmaids can be hard work but I chose 4 of my nearest and dearest friends to be mine. People who I knew if I ever needed them they’d be there. So how did I choose? Basically I didn’t think about it I just basically knew and I think if you don’t know they shouldn’t be a big part of special day.I didn’t make the girls think they’d be bridesmaids, I told them I was asking other people and I think it made them think they weren’t going to be asked. I asked them by sending them a confetti popper filled with dried flowers and the question would you be my bridesmaid in. I didn’t ask in person so they all loved the surprise and got back to me immediately. For my flower girl I sent a bracelet with “Will you be my flower girl?” on and it said on it she’d get a wish and when it broke it would come true. Also sent through post as surprise.

Before the hen do I thought the girls should meet so it wouldn’t be awkward. I created a group chat where we talked all wedding things. I arranged a meal and to go shopping for wedding makeup for the girls as they wanted to do their own. They all brought the same lipstick which matched and decided on what look to go for. They all got on very well like a house on fire and started planning hen night.

For the hen night I didn’t want to do much. I’m quite an anxious person and the thought of people looking at me and doing something to make me look like a tit made me feel quite sick. I said I’d be happy with getting wasted and having a nice meal. We where going to go bowling but I decided I needed a few more cocktails in me. The girls surprised me with lovely decorations and sashes and it was lovely. There are some pretty atrocious photos of me after a few drinks so I won’t be posting the before and after photos they got of me! We all (those of us that could) got very drunk and had lots of fun. It was a great night and it was lovely the amount of people who say congratulations to you all night. The night ended with a kebab of course in my tiara after almost starting a drunken fight with some guy who kept trying to touch me! Classy as always.

The night before the wedding Taryn my unofficial maid of honour stayed over if it wasn’t for her I don’t know how I’d of got through the night or morning. I don’t show it but I was excited and frightened as I hate spotlight being on me. On the day of the wedding the girls all arrived at around 8 am and we all got ready together taking in turns to get our hair done by the hairdresser. I did all the girls eye make up for them (the same again) and they all looked amazing. We all shared make up and bits and while I had a make up artist do my make up it was lovely to help with theirs. My mum arrived mid morning with a feast and we all ate carefully to avoid getting food on our Prestine make up. Getting into the dresses made it all real and I got nervous because everyone was looking at me in my dress and the thought of doing it in front of others made me want to pass out but I knew I was going to be married soon and got through it. The bridesmaids went in one car and my best friend Taryn came with me and my dad In wedding car. Once we got there my worry got more and more but the girls calmed me down and stopped me killing my photographer for trying to take photos of me while I was stressed out. They all looked absolutely beautiful and did brilliantly all day I couldn’t of chose better people if I’d tried.

I really enjoyed my day with these girls and dancing all night even if I was a bit anxious all day they continued to keep me calm and carried on without me when I left the photos as I’d had enough and just wanted to see my husband.

I hate this photo of me but I love it because it’s with my best friend and she’s like a proud mum in it !

This photo was taken before I got separated from my bridesmaids and Taryn stopped me from having a mini breakdown, while my dad stood there like Christ Bridezilla has entered the room.

Just so you know these dresses cost me like 30 quid each by the way.I know right bargain! just goes to show you don’t have to spend a fortune to let someone’s beauty shine through. I originally asked the girls what they liked and looked online we where going to look in shops but same things where online. All the girls loved what I’d selected and it was lucky I got dresses that fit all them without needing a seamstress. When I ordered the dresses one of the bridesmaids was 15 weeks pregnant and would be 30 at the wedding so I ordered her the size up and it fit perfectly! It’s not all about money at a wedding it’s about you, your commitment and your friendships and family relationships all coming together to fill each other with love for that special day.

You need your bride squad and your best pals and I’m so incredibly greatful to Bryony, Taryn, Sammie and Zoey for their friendship and their help on my special day.

Wedding talk: Part two-Invitations.

Wedding talk:  Part two-Invitations.

When we where wedding planning we knew full well we wanted an intimate wedding only with our nearest and dearest friends and family. No acquaintances just people who we where the closest too and people who didn’t just want a free meal and excuse to dress up. Choosing who to invite to your wedding can be VERY stressfull. They say that getting married, having children and buying a house are three of the biggest stressfull life events you can ever do and we choose to do all three in the space of a 2 years. FUN! Nonetheless we enjoyed wedding planning all the same. When it comes to inviting people you really need to decide who you are the closest too and if you want them involved in your special day. Do you want a massive event everyone will talk about or just a special day you will cherish…

You will get a lot of people wanting to invite their friends and dictate who can come and who cannot, it gets rather stressful and tiring when people think they have any say in your day whatsoever. Also the more people you invite the more expensive it gets not just the meal but the decorations to cater and chairs and sashes.

When you invite people you want to give well enough notice so when you have found somewhere i found that i benefited from save the dates. A save the date is a slip you send in the post which states the day of your wedding well in advance so people can take the day off work. I had a lot of medical staff and self employed people attending my wedding day so i wanted to get them out as early as possible. I sent these off 9 months before our wedding day. This gave people ampule chance to say if they could or could not come. We only received one person telling us they couldn’t come because they where on holiday but lucky for us they got pregnant and couldn’t fly that close to their due date (She was one of my bridesmaids so i was thrilled she got to be in my special day).

A few months after when i had started to finalise times and meal times i decided to then create wedding invites. I quite enjoyed the proceess of handmaking our own online. We put every relevent detail we could think needed to be noted. As i chose a local venue alot didn;t need saying but with my guests from outside of town i though important to state where to stay in the area near by. It is a good idea when making a invite to include a few details. i will list bellow

  • Time to arrive. Not the time of ceremony as guests who are late will end up missing your day. You also want your guests to relax.
  • Time of ceremony. So guests can roughly know how smoothly the day is going to go and if they are that late they arent coming in.
  • Time of food. So guests can know what time to eat before leaving and decide if they need too. People then wont be complaining about waiting and not knowing when they are going to eat.
  • Time of reception. To let guests know there will be a reception and that they are invited so they can plan their day and where it is if not in same place.
  • Time to leave. So you don’t have to kick people out and taxis can be pre-booked.
  • Local places to stay overnight. For out of town guests wanting to get wasted pretty much.
  • The venues address including postcode.Guests have to know where to go and don’t want to be chasing you up.
  • The date. Clearly so people don’t get confused.
  • Food options. So you can cater to allergens and needs.
  • The names of who are getting married. So people don’t get confused if they go to a few weddings or think whos wedding have they been invited too.
  • State plus ones or not. Name who is invited and if they can bring a plus one or not so people do not assume and you can have numbers before the day.
  • RSVP day. A day for everyone to reply to with contact details.

Where to buy your invites. You can get a lot of invites from shops such as paper chase and hobby craft as well as etsy. However i wanted to make my own online as i cannot write all that neatly. So i used vista print, i didn’t know until we looked online. I looked on their website and they have lots of templates and everything is completely customisation from material made on to the text and fonts. You can even add envelopes so all you have to do is write the names and addresses. They where also pretty cheep. I brought my save the dates with magnets so could be stuck to fridge so guests could keep the date clearly displayed in their home from here too. Both sets and envelopes for both with postage to my house cost 50 which was so cheep and my invites where double sided and made with linen. So have a good look around and choose what you want and only what you love!

Wedding talk: Part one – venue choice.

Wedding talk: Part one – venue choice.

As my photos are primarily all of our wedding day I thought it would be a good topic to explore with you all. So here we go sit back and relax and if you have any questions at all please do comment or directly email me and I will be more than happy to help as much as I can. This wedding talk will be in several parts so lots of information is to follow which may help if you love wedding planning or just all things weddings!

I’ve always known I wanted to marry James. From when we started dating I knew he was the one and someone I would be honoured to one day call my husband. For me personally I have never thought of getting married as just a need for a party it’s always been something personal for me. It’s been about being his wife being able to have his surname and take the ultimate leap of faith. I remember spending years joking are you gonna ask me to marry you today and both chuckling and smiling away when he would say soon. I’ll leave the engagement story for another day as it’s quite a cute little story. When he asked me I was super happy and The happiest id ever been. At first I didn’t want to rush getting married I wanted to enjoy that short time when you where engaged and we always knew when we where ready we would get married on our anniversary of when we got together.

I felt slightly pressured when pregnant which only happened 4 months after we got engaged to get married so it would be easier on birth certificate exetera but when we started looking at venues we really didn’t feel the time was right, we where supper stressed and looking at places we hated as it needed to be quick and other people got involved and that caused a great deal of stress so we decided to put it off. Around August last year just before our little guy was nearly one we decided to look properly.

We looked at quite a few venues. We looked at big flashy barns and registry offices. We looked for small and big. We saw some venues on hotels where the decor made me want to vomit and venues that made my eyes water at the price for nothing special where all my guests would have to drive too. So after months of research and looking around we decided to look at a venue which was a very old venue and perfect for what we wanted it was very rustic and has character so we booked it that day for our anniversary this year and got to it. This venue was also the place we once went for a desert on the first night James told me he loved me so had a bit of a special place in our heart.

Some tips for finding a venue…

  • Decide where you want to get married. Do you want to get married abroad where a lot of people will not come and can sometimes cause arguments with those who feel left out.
  • Do you want to invite everyone you know or just your closest friends. From that you can look into venues to your size and budget.
  • Budget! Do you need to spend a fortune for one day? Or do you want to show off and have a massive party for everyone you know.
  • Reviews. Check the reviews and speak to people about what they have said about getting married there.
  • Think about your style. When you are choosing a venue you need it to go with your style. If you’re going for a vintage look you need somewhere that matches that. If you’re going for a rustic style you can’t very well get married in a pub as the decorations just won’t go.
  • Look at the good bad and the ugly. This will help you decide what you like and hate and will help make your choice better.
  • Don’t loose your head stay calm. It’s your day and things will happen when they happen there is no rush.

Once we found the venue and we decided it was for us we decided on our style more. We looked into flowers and decorations to dress the area. I hired a florist for artificial flowers as didn’t want real so that I could keep my flowers and my bridesmaids and some guests got them as gifts. I primarily brought table bits from the range, dunelm, hobby craft, Etsy and Amazon. All my friends said how chilled I was about the whole thing. I just decided on things I liked and brought them as I liked them. I didn’t put stress on things and just mixed and matched bits all on a budget and if we liked something more we returned bits and replaced with better bits we liked more.

We brought doughnuts the day before our wedding and made a doughnut wall with boxes underneath to refill them. We made our own pick and mix table with boxes of sweets with tongs and mr and Mrs pick and mix bags to let guests choose more food. We had a low key bbq as it’s something everyone enjoyed and was easy to cater for different needs such as vegetarian and coeliac. We had it at 4pm so it was a early tea and pick and mix later and doughnuts filled the guests up. There was no need to spend another load of money on a buffet where most of the food goes to waste. Our ceremony was at 2 so guests could eat at 12 and arrive from 1 before they came so guests where happy all day. We picked colours we liked for lights in the room and fairy lights. We picked how we wanted the room ordered too. We didn’t want a head table as we are all family and friends and there was no need to put family above other family to have them on a certain table. We put a rough schedule out and allowed parents to come and go as please and plenty of toys and activity’s set ready for them to enjoy all day and adult board games aswell as quiet rooms for mothers to breastfeed or calm down time for children. All together our entire budget was 7k including everything from hair and make up to venue and entertainment and we hit just under budget. All our guests had a fabulous time and it was a day filled with only our nearest and dearest and just a fantastic day.

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