Good morning. I hope you’re all well and have had a lovely weekend so far! Today is apparently international woman day which is in my eyes a good and bad thing. It’s great that woman are appreciated on a day and other woman build them up for the day publicly. But why is this not being done every day? Why is there a day needed to celebrate woman too. Unpopular opinion here but why do we need to celebrate our sex and use it as a platform too promote woman.
I am more than obviously aware of feminism movements over the years and the hardships woman went through to get said right. But in my personal belief i think we’ve got to a stage where we should perhaps believe more in equal rights. The same pay, the same treatment of others and most importantly the same rights. I am and equalitist and believe men and woman should have the same rights. I do not believe in one sex having more rights and respects then others. I judge people on who they are not how their sex dictates.E.g slut shaming. A lot of people would think a man who sleeps about is a total lad worthy or respect whereas a woman is a slut. To me i personally don’t care what people do with their lives or bodies but i would judge someone the same whether they where male or female. I don’t believe in this whole a man shouldn’t hit a woman because i believe people shouldn’t hit other people full stop. I believe men have as much responsibility as woman to take care of their children and family.
I think my views are like this as i was raised to the age of 9 just me and my mum. My biological dad was not on the scene and never has been.When my mum met my dad (step-dad) and had children with him the typical roles of stay at home mum fell to my dad and he stayed at home to do the cooking, cleaning and the caring of the children. Many people looked down on him for this but i never did. I feel this has made me think of men and woman as equal i don’t respect someone more because of their sex or view them as having more rights than anyone else. In an ideal world it would be great if people didn’t have to campaign to get their sex heard more i just wish that everyone was treated equally. Pay be more dependant on experience not genitals. A dad be as responsible as a mum for looking after a child and doing work around the house.
After chats with a few people in this last week i have seen that my sex is used as a identity to me as a stay at home mum. I am expected to do ALL the cooking,cleaning and childcare. I told a family member me and Elijah had eaten lunch out so James could sort his own meal out tonight and they where shocked like i was in the wrong? Me and James are equals and always have been. I cook because i enjoy cooking or because i want too. Not because i have to. I clean because i like a clean home not because i care if my husband likes it or not. My husband does the majority of the washing hanging and putting away and i normally do the bathroom and deep cleaning. We take it in turns to hoover every night and to wash up. James goes to work and i stay at home as it is better for us and works for us. Not because i am a woman and that is my use. If i made more money then James then maybe he would stay at home instead and that would be okay. We both share parental responsibility when home together too which has been great for Elijah as he respects us both.
I do agree in celebrating both sexes and i do also agree with celebrating woman however. The amount we have had to overcome and the daily stigma and degradation we get every day is just simply not needed. So celebrate each other. Celebrate your sex and who you are but just don’t go around thinking your sex is better than the other sex because then that means you’re doing what others do to you what you hate. Let’s break the stigma and empower woman and men. Let’s fix each others crowns and big each other up not tear each other down. Love each other and always be kind.