Here’s a blogpost I wrote on my old blog which I wanted to share on my new blog as I think it’s important. Parent shaming!!
Nothing boils my blood more. Example… you’re eating your dinner and a child has a little hissy fit. The child is one and can not control or understand their emotions, their parents are visibly stressed out that they are causing a scene they try everything they possibly can, toys, snacks, drinks, songs and sometimes their phones ( just because they get their phone out does not mean it’s all their kid does is watch tv and phones no some parents just use it to distract them as a treat). But you sit there loudly moaning about that child. You comment on the parenting and rip them apart and end with the child’s a spoilt little pain in the ass which is not true.
Let me educate you. You where a child. You cried the same you where a pain in the ass. You’re parents also didn’t do that great of a job to teach you how to be a decent human being to not over look that a baby is being a baby and ruining your experience in a family pub where there will obviously be children if there’s a high chair somewhere. And that parent is stressed they feel awfull, you don’t know what sort of day they’ve had or what’s happening. Today I was that parent who was ripped apart as my child screamed because he was in pain. Not hungry, not being a little pain in the neck. He was in pain we learn after he was quite unwell which required a trip to the doctors and admissions into the hospital and X-rays. I tried to calm him down whilst also leaving him with his dad so I could call the doctors to get a appointment while we finished our dinner as he looked quite unwell while we where eating while you also picked me apart for that. Then you had the nerve to smile as I left as if you haven’t spent the whole time moaning about my child because he gave you his biggest grin and said goodbye to you and you realised he is just a poor adorable little baby.
My point being before you judge a mum or dad for how they parent or their child having a breakdown just think how stressed they may be and how exhausted they are of the constant criticism. Have a bit of compassion and remember the world is bigger than you and while some (not all) parents try their absolute best to not be loud and try to calm their child to create a enjoyable experience for all whilst also teaching them manners and how to act in public it is bloody hard work and don’t need you tearing them down.