In someways I could argue yes it has helped me. I mean it’s taught me to behave and how not to behave. It’s taught me how to make friends and stay in contact with some of said friends. It’s taught me how to read and write. I’ve learnt about our history and heritage. I’ve learned who I am and what I will become. It enabled me to have a education which I can use in life. It’s enabled me to work in my field and get further because of it. I’ve got the option to go to university if I wanted to train to do things I may want to do as I have the grades.
It hasn’t however taught me basic lessons. Yes I may be able to work out change for a tenner if I buy something but it hasn’t taught me the most important lessons. I wasn’t taught how taxes work, how much I’d have to pay. I wasn’t taught about how much childcare would cost and that I may have to leave my job as the pays not worth it. It doesn’t teach you how to look after a child. The health and social project where I was given a toy doll at 13 to hurdle around everywhere like a teen mum taught me shit all. It didn’t teach me how to be a mum. It didn’t teach me how to wash, bath, feed and comfort a Ill child. The food tech classes taught me basic cooking and not how to make meals. I can make a good salad or cake from recollection but that’s where it ends. I did however learn to wash up what a shitty life skill that is!Wood tech taught me how to saw and shape wood but I’ve never had the need to make a wooden key chain. Graphics taught me how to design but very badly, terribly and not from scratch using other people’s bits and bobs to make my own work. I never learnt to take photos and learnt myself from just doing. In citizenship I didn’t learn that if I vote there’s basically no point as democracy is pretty much screwed in this country.
I was never taught how to run a house and clean, I taught myself to sow and cook and clean. I wasn’t taught how much my bills would cost or what I would need for a house. I was never told how to turn on the heating and the cost that would incur. I was never taught how to fix a leak or paint my house. I was never taught nutrition. Sure we’d touch on it but we where never told how to look after ourselves and what to eat to feel good and be healthy. I’d go shopping when I first moved out and buy pure unhealthy crap and rack up a massive bill. We where never taught to talk about our feelings, we never had support for emotions. We were allowed to be bullied so that our adult lives would become hard and untrusting. We where never taught how to save for a mortgage and work. We where never taught about trolls. We where never taught how to be good wife’s/ mums / people. We were told to address teachers as mr/sir/miss/mrs and not by their names when you never do that now which was supposed to make you unrelatable to the teachers. Something I find bizarre considering they’re looking after you all day you’d think they’d crack a smile when you may be going through some personal stuff at home.
Although I earn a lot to school and am grateful to of received a education. Something I’m extremely proud of that is free in this country. There is so much we should of been taught so that adult life doesn’t hit you with a cold hard slap when you start your first job. So when you move out you’re not stressed out of your mind working everything out in your own way. I will teach Elijah about saving, tax, housekeeping and everything I wish I was taught about as he grows so I know whatever school doesn’t provide I can. Hopefully one day this will change and children will know more than us! Until then teach and share tour knowledge and whilst you learn share that with others too.